Too much booty these days


When selfies arrived, it started a tsunami of picture-taking. Facebook was covered with them. Group selfies followed. But it seems that some female celebrities feel that taking pictures of their butts is the hip new thing.

Two of my grandchildren were visiting last week who are in their 20s.

I asked them what was going on, and they said it was “the year of the butt.” I really try to stay current and not to be too judgmental, but I am flabbergasted at this new phenomenon. What is this obsession about? I think it started with Kim Kardashian and her booty. Critics of body shapes made cutting remarks about the size of her backside. She very cleverly turned it around into something desirable, and it soon became a media frenzy. Pictures of her wearing tight dresses that accentuated her booty showed up everywhere.

Most recently Jennifer Lopez displayed a picture of herself in a pair of shorts that were hiked up so far that you could see the bottom of her backside, which I imagine she considered to be cool and seductive. Beyonce does the same thing, and in a recent video she was standing in a line of women who were shaking their booties rhythmically while she sang.

Now to some this diatribe may sound as if I am permeated with jealousy. But trust me, I am not only not jealous, I am happy to have come from a generation that had some discernment on how they displayed themselves. Yes, there were strippers and stars that showed cleavage, but haven’t we gone a little too far? I frankly am beginning to wonder why any of these people bother to wear clothes. They have great bodies, and they look extremely fit, but how does all this skin exposure translate to the millions of young women who view them as role models? How about showing me an MRI of your brain? Is there anything in there? Why are boobs and butts becoming more important than brains, grace and dignity?

Women fought long and hard for equality. My mother, myself and thousands of other women have strived to have our intellect validated. How is all this need to show so much skin serve us? I don’t expect women to transition to wearing shrouds because looking sexy and feeling feminine is fun, but how about leaving something to the imagination? There is also the allure of mystique. Wouldn’t it be more interesting to wonder what’s underneath a piece of clothing?

Everyone has a little bit of ‘wackiness’


I’ve found the more unconventional someone is, the less likely they are to take themselves seriously. The next time you feel like doing something wacky, go ahead and do it. I tend to live outside the box and it doesn’t always go over well with some people I know and have known. My ex-husband would look at me with disdain when I would strike up a conversation with a stranger. Now in my estimation this is not exactly weird. But he could not fathom why I would talk to someone I didn’t know. “Well isn’t that how we get to know someone”? If we never talked to anyone we didn’t know, we would end up talking to ourselves.

The above is mild in comparison to some things I’ve done, like dance while I’m waiting in line, sing while shopping, or wear a silly hat when I go for a walk. This and other situations led us down the path to divorce. Although divorce is an unfortunate occurrence, it freed me to be myself without someone’s disapproval.

Nothing I’ve written so far is really that odd. To become really unconventional means you must journey into the world of eccentricity. According to David Weeks, Ph.D., a neuropsychologist at the Royal Edinburgh Hospital in Scotland who has spent years studying eccentrics. Among other findings, the people Weeks studied went to doctors only one-sixteenth as often as other adults.

Inside every person lurks a little bit of wackiness. Let your quirky side out once in a while. If you work at a conservative bank or law firm, wear a tie or scarf with just a bit more flair than is the norm. Your underwear always can be unique because nobody sees it ( at least at work ). Get yourself a business card for friends and family that gives you an unusual title: Goddess of Guffaws, Director of Everything, Inverse Paranoid. Have a menopause party or an unbirthday party. Walk out of your bedroom backward. Stand on one leg when you’re talking to a higher-up. You’ll get people staring at you, but who cares! So many individuals worry about what “they” will say. I honestly don’t know who “they” are. But obviously “they” have an incredible ability to frighten us into living lives according to “their” rules.

The important thing is to encourage yourself to remove the mantle of fear that stops you from stepping outside the box. If you have a lot of fears around this, consider how much your brain will appreciate your ability to be different. It helps with neuroplasticity, the brains ability to increase new neural connections. So don’t get into a rut! Remember the reward for limiting yourself is that you become at the mercy of your limitations.