Magical thinking and it’s ability to keep one sane.


  I am looking out the window in disbelief as I watch the snow fall. How could this be? It’s almost April and spring officially arrived last week. After all we have surpassed the record for total snow fall since 1545 haven’t we? I had actually begun to see small patches of lawn. Not much, a couple of inches here and there, and the seven-foot mound on the back deck had receded to around three feet.

Every morning I wake up, open the shades and hope for a miracle. I hope to see green bushes, crocuses, squirrels and birds. I keep staring at the flakes desperately trying to will them to go away, but so far they’re not paying any attention.

The weather is an interesting lesson in how futile it is to think we have control over life. Yet so many of us think we do. Magical thinking is how many of us try to make ourselves feel better. “Things should be different”, “People shouldn’t be so selfish”, “I’d be a lot happier if I won the lottery”. These are thoughts that situations should be changed, when it’s really not in one’s power to change them.

Many of us were brought up listening to fairy tales that ended with the slaying of the dragon, the prince saving the damsel in distress and them living happily ever after. It’s wonderful to be carried away by a fairy tale that fills us with wonder and joy, when we’re children. I loved listening to the stories my mother told me before I went to sleep. Unfortunately I took away some messages that were truly unrealistic. I thought I should marry a man who was similar to the princes in the aforementioned stories. They would whisk me away and take care of me as if they would perish without me.

Well, I married two faux princes and drove myself nuts trying to get them to be what I thought they “should be”. After years of trying all kinds of techniques to try to change their essential characters, I had an epiphany. I had to change myself and my perceptions. I’m sure you’re saying “what took you so long”? But some of us take a lot longer to stop living in La la land.

I have not transitioned into a cynical, jaded individual who is no longer invested in the magical possibilities of the universe. But I am realizing more and more that I can only control what is in my control and what isn’t. For the most part even that is an illusion, but in order to get through life with a certain degree of sanity, we need to still retain a small amount of a fairy tale mentality.

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3 thoughts on “Magical thinking and it’s ability to keep one sane.

  1. Magical thoughts can help keep the harshest of unchangeable realities at bay, if you let them. We SubGeniuses have a saying (from our prophet, J.R. “BOB” Dobbs), “Pull the wool over your own eyes!”

  2. For what it’s worth I believe we need to hold onto our magical thoughts.
    I read: “because thoughts are energy what ever we hold in thought EXISTS on the Astral plane for how ever long we hold the thought AND without too much resistance in our environment IT WILL Materialize.” Ever think of a movie then the movie comes on tv? How about when looking for parking? If you visualize the place and hold the thought do u find a space?
    What if thoughts have energy to attract events? Even if it defies ‘reality’ I want to think positive all the time! What is real? is it only what we think we know? i.m.o. there’s more to reality than what I can imagine.
    “believe in the magic of your dreams” because even if they don’t come true at least I’ve lived them in my imagination. Tip: “ask not for what you think will make you happy, ask only for the happiness.” Loretta, we’ve got the best weather here right now. come visit the s.f. bay area & feast at at Chez Panisse!

    • Thoughts create ideas, but only decisions and actions lead to maifestations. In other words, faith without works is dead.

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